One of the many things you have to think about if you are possibly having a boy child is whether or not to circumcise the kid. If you're Jewish and even semi-observant, this is usually a no-brainer. In fact, it was a no-brainer for most people until a few years ago, when people started to question whether it's medically necessary. And of course, in many parts of the world, it's never been done routinely.
Of course my husband and I disagree on this. I don't really want to do it, and he really does. I am trying to understand his reasons, and I know in some ways I can't simply because I'm not a dude. Basically, he is afraid it will "cramp his style" with the ladies (I have tried to assure him it won't), and he's afraid the kid won't look like every other kid and will get made fun of in the locker room. Considering that the kid will be growing up in Brooklyn, where lots of new-age hippie-style parents are refusing to circumcise, I actually think he will look different from everyone else if he IS circumcised.
Anyway, I really am trying very hard to take all these concerns on board and take them seriously. It's as much my husband's decision as it is mine. But I can't help it. I hate the idea of someone cutting up my tiny little baby's penis! I hate it I hate it I hate it. And yeah, I understand that it's a pain in the ass to wash an uncircumcised penis several times a day. But I would seriously rather wash that weird little dick-sweater six times a day than have some doctor cut it off. I just can't bear to think about that.
There is the disease factor to consider. Some studies have shown that having a circumcised penis can significantly reduce a man's risk of getting HIV or other sexually-transmitted diseases. Of course I hope our son (if it is a son) will be smart enough to use a condom, but you can't really plan on that.
Anyway, yeah. We need to work this one out. Which will be fun.
Of course my husband and I disagree on this. I don't really want to do it, and he really does. I am trying to understand his reasons, and I know in some ways I can't simply because I'm not a dude. Basically, he is afraid it will "cramp his style" with the ladies (I have tried to assure him it won't), and he's afraid the kid won't look like every other kid and will get made fun of in the locker room. Considering that the kid will be growing up in Brooklyn, where lots of new-age hippie-style parents are refusing to circumcise, I actually think he will look different from everyone else if he IS circumcised.
Anyway, I really am trying very hard to take all these concerns on board and take them seriously. It's as much my husband's decision as it is mine. But I can't help it. I hate the idea of someone cutting up my tiny little baby's penis! I hate it I hate it I hate it. And yeah, I understand that it's a pain in the ass to wash an uncircumcised penis several times a day. But I would seriously rather wash that weird little dick-sweater six times a day than have some doctor cut it off. I just can't bear to think about that.
There is the disease factor to consider. Some studies have shown that having a circumcised penis can significantly reduce a man's risk of getting HIV or other sexually-transmitted diseases. Of course I hope our son (if it is a son) will be smart enough to use a condom, but you can't really plan on that.
Anyway, yeah. We need to work this one out. Which will be fun.
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